3 Common Reasons of Negativity

According to a study at a university, there are 4 elements that create negative thinking: Regret and Shame, Negative Expressions, Lack of Confidence, and Criticism Towards Others. If we sum it up, the following 3 reasons are the most common triggers for negative thinking.

Severe Long-Term Stress

Stress can be a direct cause of negativity. When we mess up at work/school or can’t perform well, negativity takes over our minds, making less room for positivity to grow. If we surround ourselves with negative people, sometimes we end up being heavily influenced by them too.

Past Traumatic Experiences

Past trauma can impact us in many ways. A person full of optimism and positivity can suddenly change negatively due to shocking incidents. Some people can fall into a negative trap where they can’t believe in anyone after experiencing betrayal from someone they used to trust.

Hormonal Imbalance Due To Poor Lifstyle Choices

A neurological chemical called serotonin has to do a lot with our emotional control and stability. A lack of serotonin not only makes us less energetic, but it can also make us negative too. For your body to properly produce serotonin, a stress-free lifestyle with exercise, a healthy diet, and sunlight becomes crucial. If we can shift our lifestyle with healthier lifestyle habits that promote serotonin, that can push our minds back towards positivity.

3 Reasons Sleep Heals Negativity

Typically, if the cause of our problems is clear, we’d have to fix that first. However, causes such as past trauma or long-term stress cannot be fixed overnight and that can feel like a struggle. Therefore, we advise that you start easy with getting plenty of sleep. In this section, we’ll explain how sleep can heal negativity within our minds.

It Heals the Physical Body and Brain

The brain can rest and condition the body’s hormonal balance when it goes to sleep. A well-balanced hormonal function can fight negativity and build stress resilience towards the incoming negativity we experience.

The body needs to feel energized enough before we start exercising towards a healthy serotonin function. Sleep also helps our whole body restore itself. Without fundamental sleep, it’s hard to make the change we desire.

Leads To Better Lifstyle Habits

A structured sleeping schedule, sunlight, and a healthy diet all contribute towards getting rid of our negativity. A good night’s rest promotes serotonin secretion which helps us back to positivity. Good sleep also helps us stay efficient during the day. Most of us have pulled all-nighters during the weekday only to try and catch up on sleep during the weekends. We can start working on positivity today, just by starting off a healthy sleeping schedule.

Stops The Negativity Loop

Once we fall into a negativity loop our problems seem infinitely larger than what they are. We need to reset our minds so that we can shift gears towards positivity. To easily do this, we recommend sleep.

When we sleep, our thoughts are forced to shut down and we can leave from thinking so much. This gives us the capability to look at things more objectively and calmly when we wake up.

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Sleep Well for a Healthy Mind and Body

Good sleep nourishes our brain and body while it puts our negative thinking on hold. It’s a necessary step for proper serotonin secretion and the key to stopping the negativity. Next time you feel negative and down, stop what you’re doing and go to bed.

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Talk to yourself. Does that sound like what old people do? We all do it in some form whether we are aware or not. For instance, you may have heard your inner voice reassure, “It’ll be okay”. At other times, asking criticizing questions like, “How did I screw this up?” Self-talking is a habitual and natural inner dialogue that we all have. If you don’t recall, these self-talks may be happening unconsciously for you. Moreover, the inner voice usually helps us plan, motivate, problem-solve, practice critical thinking, and reflect. Talking to ourselves can also help us find healthy ways to relieve stress.

For many of us, the self-talk persona is directly tied to our self-worth image. Furthermore, self-dialogues are typiclly shaped by how the surrounding people talked to us as we grew up. What have you said to yourself recently? Moreover, was the voice positive and encouraging, or was it full of self-criticism? Learning how to control our internal conversations can have a positive effect on our mental well-being and stress coping capabilities. Therefore, the next time you talk to yourself, try to listen to the intentions of your internal voice

Positive & Negative Ways to Talk to Yourself

Negative Self-Talk

An increase in negative self-talk allows the development of self-doubt and poor self-perception. This refers to negative or harmful intent behind the languag you use when you talk to yourself. Negative self-talk leads to higher stress, anxiety, depression, and shame. In addition, research indicates that self‐criticism is related to stress‐induced changes in our biochemistry.

If the tendency of self-criticism is already a habit, it can be hard to catch. In this case, observations of our internal dialogues can identify where the negative traps are. Some environments or people may be making you vulnerable to negative self-talk. Being aware of situations prone to stimulate negativity can help us navigate better, prepare, and avoid them altogether. Another good method is to recognize, stop, and evaluate how you talk to yourself in times of stress. If we feel entangled within our own negative thoughts, we can instead focus on how to rephrase our experience in a neutral or positive light. Changing the way we think may take some time, but with practice, we can re-wire our brains to steer away from toxic internal conversations. Moreover, this is essential in finding healthy and appropriate ways to relieve stress.

Positive Self-Talk

An increase in positive self-talk enhances our motivation, performance, and general well-being. This refers to positive and helpful intent behind the language you use when you talk to yourself. An optimistic and encouraging perspective leads to better mental skills for problem-solving, out-of-the-box thinking, and coping skills for hardships or challenges. In addition, it can relieve the harmful effects of stress and anxiety.

A study on the impact of self-talk affirms the important habit of restating negative statements into positive ones. Scientists say that consciously feeding our minds with positive empowering self-talk is a crucial skill that changes our perspectives and attitudes towards ourselves and others. This is why many self-help advisors suggest using daily positive affirmations. Therefore, try to increase the frequency and volume of encouraging internal dialogues through self-talk. Hanging out with positive people can also help. This is because the people we surround ourselves with can have a huge impact on the language we tend to use. See how you can reframe a negative comment into a more encouraging one. In the end, the best pep-squad for you is YOU!

‘How’ You Talk to Yourself Matters

A Constructive Second-Person Dialogue

Some of us may find that forced positivity onto our inner thoughts can be uncomfortable. People who identify themselves as ‘realists’ may have difficulties turning a blind eye to the negative while covering it with positive self-talk. In other words, when you talk to yourself, it’s not as simple as drowing yourself in positive rhetoric. The good news is that there are more constructive and effective ways to relieve stress.

In 2014, a research team at Michigan University examined the different ways people held their internal conversations and how it affected them. Researchers asked participants to prepare for a public speech, and then divided them into different groups. Each group was given instructions to perform self-talk using different pronouns as they prepared. The results revealed that the pronouns and language mattered more so than whether the conversation was negative or positive. Above all, the group that used second-person pronouns performed the best; feeling less regret, shame, or stress after their speech. These results help us understand that small shifts in pronoun use towards ourselves influence our ability to regulate feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, even under social stress. In other words, when you talk to yourself, try to use second-person pronouns!

Pronouns Matter When You Talk to Yourself

To give a comparative, here are examples of a first, second, and third-person perspective. Try reading these sentences out loud as if to talk to yourself, and feel the difference.

First-person conversation:
A. “I should prepare for my exams. Why haven’t I started?”
B. “I am not nervous. I am going to talk slowly so people understand me.”

Second-person conversation:
A. “You should prepare for your exams. Why haven’t you started yet?
B. “Don’t be nervous. You should talk slowly so that people understand you.”

Third-person conversation:
A. “(Your Name) should prepare for his/her exams. Why hasn’t he/she started yet?
B. “(Your Name) shouldn’t feel nervous. (Your Name) should talk slowly so that people understand him/her.”

A first-person question like “Why haven’t I started?” can sound like self-criticism. On the other hand, a second-person perspective can create a friendly distance when you talk to yourself. Subsequently, the third-person pronoun may feel more distant where the closeness fades away. Therefore, according to science, introspections in the second-person creates the perfect distance between our internal voice and issues.

Self-Distance When You Talk to Yourself

When we are self-immersed in situations, we tend to use first-person pronouns. Switching-up pronouns can be effective in creating a “self-distance” when you talk to yourself. Self-distancing is the ability to critically reflect on ourselves from an external perspective. In addition, this naturally tends to follow the languages of a second or third-person pronoun. When we talk in third-person, our brain behaves the same as if we were talking to another person.

Why is internal self-distancing an important skill to our mental health? First, it can assist us to better regulate anxieties under stress, as well as objectively find healthy ways to relieve stress. Second, it helps us appraise potential social stressors as less threatening and more so a healthy challenge to take on. Third, it strengthens us to preserve self-control in stressful situations, also helping us to perform better.

Self-Distancing in Practice

Here is how to create self-distance when you talk to yourself:

• Use second-person pronouns to assure that you are not self-immersed.
• Offer reassurance and encouragement, the same as you would do for a friend who’s struggling.
• Acknowledge your emotions. Instead of dismissing it, see if you could give constructive and compassionate advice.
• Visualize the goal. Detach yourself from the current moment and concentrate on making a plan to achieve results.
• Journal. Writing things on paper can create the necessary emotional distance for more objective perspectives.

Self-distancing through visual imagery can also be useful, but a lot of times it requires environments where we can concentrate on our imaginations. Talking to ourselves through an internal dialogue is much easier to do even while we are carrying difficult tasks. This is why using second-person pronouns when you talk to yourself is one of the best ways to relieve stress.

Talk to Yourself as a Mental Health Check-In

Practicing our skills in self-talk is a great way to regulate our mental health. After all, our own voice what we will be hearing most repeatedly throughout life. Furthermore, it’s something we can start immediately without external help and feel instant results of encouragement. Therefore, try to talk to yourself regularly and check in on your own emotions and feelings. This could help regulate and maintain a healthy mind, as well as finding appropriate ways to relieve stress as necessary. Do you talk to yourself in a way that excels you or harms you? Give yourself a chance to be the best support possible!

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Everything in our life can be a potential seed for worrying and stress. It affects all of us. How good are you with coping with the stress you come to face with? One method to reduce stress involves pressing an imaginary button in the palm of youe hand. Imagine the button is connected to your brain. Then, as you push the button, it sends signals to your mind to “turn off” all negative and stressful thoughts. In reality, it’s a little more complicated than that. This article will show you how to practice this method in detail. Will you press the button?

Push the Button to Reduce Stress

“You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.”

– Wayne Dyer
(American writer & speaker)

Stress can manifest itself as both emotional and physical influences on our well-being, and the list of the negative impact it has on us is long. Learning how to handle our stress can increase our happiness and health.

Dr. Don Joseph Goewey is the author of the book The End of Stress: Four Steps to Rewire Your Brain. He is also a pioneer in breakthrough approaches to overcome catastrophic life events. In his book, he explains how our auto-pilot perpetual stress reactions can be trained to sustain calmness. One of the tools he uses called the “Clear Button” method works great on acute stress and worries. If you are feeling the need to reduce stress instantly, this is a great exercise to try. Keep reading to find out how to push the button!

The 6 Steps to the Clear Button Method

1. Imagine a Button in Your Palm

Imagine a button at the center of your palm. When you push the button, it sends a signal to the primitive brain to stop negative, stressful, or pessimistic thoughts or judgments.

2. Push the Button

Push the button on your palm. As you keep pressing, slowly bring your attention to your breathing.

3. The Red Breath

Take a breath. On the inhale, count “1”. Then on the exhale, think red.

4. The Blue Breath

Take another breath. On the inhale, count “2”. Then on the exhale, think blue.

5. The Green Breath

Take a third breath. On the inhale count “3”. Then on the exhale, think green.

6. Let Go

Take one more breath and on the exhale, let your mind go completely. Relax into the present moment. Assert your intention to be at peace as you relate to whatever challenge you face. Be confident in the clarity your state of calm now affords you.

Push the Button Whenever You Feel Stressed

How did that feel? According to Dr. Goewey, we can steal away our attention from the primitive parts of the brain that focus on survival (a.k.a. the part that creates our worries), by when you push the imaginary button and count. This also temporarily takes out your negative thoughts, helping to reduce stress. Concentrating on the steps can be difficult when stress levels are high. However, even if your attention wanders into other thoughts, there’s no need to panic. Just calmly re-focus and get back to the step you were at.

Will You Press the Button?

Stress can be positive in small doses. It helps us stay focused, accomplish goals, boost memory, and provide us the necessary survival reactions at times of crisis. However, prolonging stress can be detrimental to our mental and physical health. Having tips on how to cope with stressful times can help you manage a healthier mind and body. Next time a stressful situation occurs, try push the button to help reduce stress instantly!

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Reference:

About Don Joseph Goewey. (2018, July 31). Don Joseph Goewey. https://donjosephgoewey.com/about-don-joseph-goewey/


Goewey, D. J. (2014a). The End of Stress: Four Steps to Rewire Your Brain. Atria Books/Beyond Words.


Goewey, D. J. (2014b). The Starter Kit for Resetting the Brain’s Auto Pilot from Stressed to Stress-Free. https://www.heilpraktikerschule.ch/fileadmin/hps_files/02_Dateien/04_Downloads/04_Diverse/Starter_Kit_Don_Joseph_Goewey.pdf


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