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<p>Why is that person pretending to be someone they&#8217;re not?<br>How can I have someone feel comfortable enough to be themselves?<br>When a person hides who they really are or pretends to be someone they&#8217;re not, most times we describe them as <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">&#8220;Two-Faced.&#8221;</span> It means that they&#8217;re hiding their authentic selves and what they really think. It&#8217;s not a very positive term to use.<br><br>In this post, we will present the 5 scenarios of why people may act in opposition to what they really feel.</p>



<h2>5 Cases of Why People Act Two-Faced</h2>



<div class="wp-block-image"><figure class="aligncenter size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_two-faced3-1024x683.jpeg" alt="two-faced portrait showing the different inner thoughts." class="wp-image-14691" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_two-faced3-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_two-faced3-300x200.jpeg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_two-faced3-768x512.jpeg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_two-faced3-1536x1024.jpeg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_two-faced3-2048x1365.jpeg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_two-faced3-100x67.jpeg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_two-faced3-675x450.jpeg 675w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_two-faced3-1600x1067.jpeg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/juT5ymUDYkA" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure></div>



<p>There is no definitive way to determine whether or not a person is acting two-faced. We&#8217;ll take a look at a few cases and why people feel the need to keep a front and act separate from how they&#8217;re really feeling.</p>



<h3>CASE 1: People-Pleasing to Gain Position</h3>



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<p>There are people that try and <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">please others to gain desired outcomes</span>.<br><br>At some point as kids, we all tried hard to please our parents to gain affection or have them buy a toy we wanted. This may still prevail in our actions today when we try to please someone we like to get their attention.<br><br>With this kind of situation, a person&#8217;s real personality will come out only when they reach their goal. This is why we often hear stories of people who change after they&#8217;re &#8220;officially together.&#8221;</p>



<h3>CASE 2: Not Ready to Show Their True Selves</h3>



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<p>Most people act two-faced when they don&#8217;t want others to see who they really are. When we join new communities, we keep our thoughts to ourselves while we try to figure out the social dynamics. No one wants to show how weird they are from the start.<br><br><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">This a natural self-defense reaction we all have.</span> In this case, time will allow the person to show their real authentic selves.</p>



<h3>CASE 3: Approaching Things Very Carefully</h3>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_hide1-1024x683.jpeg" alt="A man thinking through carefully." class="wp-image-14686" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_hide1-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_hide1-300x200.jpeg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_hide1-768x512.jpeg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_hide1-1536x1024.jpeg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_hide1-2048x1365.jpeg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_hide1-100x67.jpeg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_hide1-675x450.jpeg 675w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_hide1-1600x1067.jpeg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/xh4w1auDbsM" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<p>It&#8217;s not always safe to share everything you know. Sometimes, extra information can cause trouble. A person can be acting like someone they&#8217;re not to mitigate the risk of getting too involved.<br><br>In this case, their <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">careful personality is causing them to act as if they&#8217;re two-faced</span>, so it may be hard to draw out their real personalities. If they deem you as &#8220;trustworthy&#8221; or &#8220;a person that&#8217;s capable of objective perspectives,&#8221; they may naturally come out of their shell to talk to you.</p>



<h3>CASE 4: The Desire for People To Like Them</h3>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_lookup-1024x575.jpeg" alt="A man looking up and talking to someone." class="wp-image-14693" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_lookup-1024x575.jpeg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_lookup-300x168.jpeg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_lookup-768x431.jpeg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_lookup-1536x862.jpeg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_lookup-2048x1150.jpeg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_lookup-100x56.jpeg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_lookup-700x393.jpeg 700w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_lookup-1600x898.jpeg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/CkvB_DZtVfY" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<p>Sometimes we act a certain way so that other people will like us.<br><br>If someone is an introvert but is afraid of loneliness, they may act as if they&#8217;re an extrovert to feel accepted. In this kind of scenario, <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">a person may feel &#8220;fake&#8221; because they are trying to be someone they are not.</span></p>



<h3>CASE 5: Past Experiences of Social Difficulties</h3>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_socialdifficulties-1024x700.jpeg" alt="A woman rejecting all the hands around her." class="wp-image-14692" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_socialdifficulties-1024x700.jpeg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_socialdifficulties-300x205.jpeg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_socialdifficulties-768x525.jpeg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_socialdifficulties-1536x1051.jpeg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_socialdifficulties-2048x1401.jpeg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_socialdifficulties-100x68.jpeg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_socialdifficulties-658x450.jpeg 658w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/SELF_socialdifficulties-1600x1094.jpeg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/tnxRFtXI9dI" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<p>Some people have past trauma from painful social incidents and this keeps them away from being honest about their feelings. It could be that they&#8217;ve opened up to someone before but were betrayed, or their authentic personalities being rejected in the past.<br><br>As much as it&#8217;s hard to trust others, no one wants to keep up their guard all the time, so these people may open up to you if you sincerely approach them.</p>



<h2>How to Build a Relationship With a Two-Faced Person</h2>



<div class="wp-block-image"><figure class="aligncenter size-large is-resized"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/ja/wp-content/uploads/sites/8/2021/03/listen-1702648_640.jpg" alt="Two men communicating." class="wp-image-14010" width="751" height="500" /><figcaption>Image：<a href="https://pixabay.com/ja/photos/%E8%80%B3%E3%82%92%E5%82%BE%E3%81%91%E3%82%8B-%E9%9D%9E%E5%85%AC%E5%BC%8F%E3%81%AE%E4%BC%9A%E8%AD%B0-1702648/">Pixabay</a></figcaption></figure></div>



<p>It makes a difference to know whether a person is consciously or unconsciously acting out. If you want them to be real with you, try communicating in the following ways:</p>



<h3>・Consider a Soft and Long-Lasting Dialogue</h3>



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<p>With the 5 cases above, there seems to be a way to open up people when we invest in a long-term relationship. However, going in too forcefully with long hours of communication will make them nervous.<br><br>Be aware that it won&#8217;t be easy to break a person&#8217;s shell. Rather than going for an hour&#8217;s lunch, try a 3-minute friendly greeting every morning.<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">A gradual approach will make it easier for a person to open up.</span></p>



<h3>・Don&#8217;t Force Communication</h3>



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<p>This may somewhat contradict the above point on being active in your approach, but <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">excessive communication can feel alarming for some.</span> It&#8217;s a great idea to try and get to know someone, but make sure to keep a distance that&#8217;s safe enough for the other person to feel open.</p>



<h3>・Show Your Own Vulnerabilities</h3>



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<p>If the person seems to act because they&#8217;re trying to hide their weakness, you can try showing your own vulnerabilities.<br><br>In psychology, there&#8217;s a term called<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">&#8220;Emotional Empathy.&#8221;</span><strong> </strong>Psychologist and journalist, Daniel Goleman, describes Emotional Empathy as, “when you feel physically along with the other person, as though their emotions were contagious.”<span style="color:#ff6900" class="color"><strong> </strong>When people understand that others have vulnerabilities too, it becomes easier for them to show their own.</span><br><br>Once you establish that it&#8217;s okay to be your authentic self, the necessity to keep a front dissolves and allows for a person to be real.</p>



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<h2>Build Relationships Slowly For Them to Open Up</h2>



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<p>There are many reasons why a person might need to act two-faced and it won&#8217;t be easy to break their shell.<span style="color:#ff6900" class="color"> It will take time.</span><strong> </strong>Approach them gently as you would approach a feral cat and keep a healthy distance as you do so. Eventually, you&#8217;ll reach a place where you can see each other eye to eye and communicate at a closer level.<br></p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>References：<br><br>SAWADA, M. (2014). Balance Between Private and Public Selves :&nbsp;<em>The Annual Report of Educational Psychology in Japan</em>,&nbsp;<em>53</em>(0), 37–49. <a rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="https://doi.org/10.5926/arepj.53.37 (opens in a new tab)" href="https://doi.org/10.5926/arepj.53.37" target="_blank">https://doi.org/10.5926/arepj.53.37</a><br><br>Tobari, M. (2000). Empathy as a multidimensional construct : A review of research on empathy.&nbsp;<em>The Japanese Journal of Personality</em>,&nbsp;<em>9</em>(1), 36–51. <a rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="https://doi.org/10.2132/jjpjspp.9.1_36 (opens in a new tab)" href="https://doi.org/10.2132/jjpjspp.9.1_36" target="_blank">https://doi.org/10.2132/jjpjspp.9.1_36</a></p></blockquote>
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<p>Throughout years of being together, every long-term relationship or marriage experiences bumpy patches along the way. After the honeymoon phase fades out, some people find themselves experiencing more friction with their partners. How can we minimize the small common arguments? Our individual subjective views make it hard to let go of small issues, which can then turn into pent-up frustration. <br><br>Let&#8217;s examine the common points of frustration in a household and find out how to better resolve them.</p>



<h2>Common Arguments Between Couples</h2>



<div class="wp-block-image"><figure class="aligncenter size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/selfargument-1024x683.jpg" alt="A common argument seen between a fox couple" class="wp-image-13319" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/selfargument-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/selfargument-300x200.jpg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/selfargument-768x512.jpg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/selfargument-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/selfargument-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/selfargument-100x67.jpg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/selfargument-675x450.jpg 675w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/selfargument-1600x1067.jpg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash.com (opens in a new tab)" href="https://unsplash.com/photos/DCtwjzQ9uVE" target="_blank">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure></div>



<p>Cooperation and empathetic communication are vital in a loving and lasting relationship. Frustration can build up when one feels like the other is lacking in the conscious efforts of these elements.</p>



<h3>Uneven Household Chores</h3>



<p>Uneven understandings of cleanliness and chores are easy sources for frustration. If one spends the day at a demanding job only to come back to a partner lazily lounging in a messy house, understandably, it can result in unpleasant feelings. Household chores don&#8217;t only imply the physical necessities. <a rel="noreferrer noopener" href="https://www.todaysparent.com/family/family-life/emotional-labour-eroding-your-marriage/" target="_blank">Emotional labor</a> can be a huge component as well.</p>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_cleaning-1024x768.jpg" alt="Vacuuming confetti" class="wp-image-13392" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_cleaning-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_cleaning-300x225.jpg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_cleaning-768x576.jpg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_cleaning-1536x1152.jpg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_cleaning-2048x1536.jpg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_cleaning-100x75.jpg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_cleaning-600x450.jpg 600w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_cleaning-1600x1200.jpg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/cpIgNaazQ6w" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<h3>Disagreements</h3>



<p>When one has too much pride to accept differences or doesn&#8217;t know how to handle disagreements, it becomes a problem. The will to communicate decreases in a partner if they feel like they&#8217;re never heard.</p>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_disagree-1024x683.jpg" alt="a couple disagreeing and rejecting communication" class="wp-image-13368" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_disagree-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_disagree-300x200.jpg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_disagree-768x512.jpg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_disagree-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_disagree-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_disagree-100x67.jpg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_disagree-675x450.jpg 675w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_disagree-1600x1067.jpg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/nf4erxItPLU" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<h3>Not Keeping Promises</h3>



<p>Tensions can build up when promises are broken. If one promises to handle a certain task and doesn&#8217;t follow through, the other can feel overwhelmed with more on their list to handle. We all hold hope in promises made. Thus, we also feel very disappointed when promises are broken for selfish or uncommunicated reasons.</p>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_couple-1024x681.jpg" alt="A couple feeling indifferent" class="wp-image-13390" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_couple-1024x681.jpg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_couple-300x199.jpg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_couple-768x511.jpg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_couple-1536x1021.jpg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_couple-2048x1362.jpg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_couple-100x66.jpg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_couple-677x450.jpg 677w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_couple-1600x1064.jpg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/wepoICvB8fY" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<h2>4 Things to Try When You Feel Frustrated</h2>



<p>A big portion of our frustrations happens when our message isn&#8217;t conveyed properly. Sure, we can blame communication skills, but presuming that you&#8217;ve already established a certain kind of dynamic in how you argue throughout the years, it&#8217;s not easy to create immediate change.<br><br>Here are 4 suggestions that can help when you&#8217;re feeling frustrated with your partner.</p>



<h3>Create Space for Alone Time</h3>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_alone-1024x683.jpg" alt="Spending alone time" class="wp-image-13370" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_alone-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_alone-768x512.jpg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_alone-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_alone-2048x1366.jpg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_alone-100x67.jpg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_alone-675x450.jpg 675w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_alone-1600x1067.jpg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/59g2rIVGAiI" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<p>Once we&#8217;re upset with our partner, even the sight of them can set us off. To avoid that, spend some alone time to cool off. There&#8217;s no need to live separate lives for this, just take a few hours off to reflect and recharge your positive energies.<br><br>A few minutes of internal positive conversations can help us cope with stressful situations. Try to hold conversations with yourself in a second-person perspective while giving yourself genuine advice. This method helps people regain an objective view of their stress. <br><br>We go into more details on how to do this in another post if you&#8217;re interested.</p>



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<h3>Tell Them How You Feel</h3>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_handhold-1024x683.jpg" alt="A couple holding hands and communicating with eachother" class="wp-image-13372" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_handhold-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_handhold-300x200.jpg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_handhold-768x512.jpg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_handhold-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_handhold-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_handhold-100x67.jpg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_handhold-675x450.jpg 675w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_handhold-1600x1067.jpg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/qJE8Ur4jRew" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<p>Speak with your partner about how you feel. Your partner isn&#8217;t intentionally trying to make you unhappy. Oftentimes, they may not realize that you&#8217;re even frustrated. Talk to them directly. It will help them understand that there are concerns.<br><br>Let&#8217;s also be mindful of the tone when we speak to our partners. If you&#8217;re frustrated with them for never putting their dirty clothes in the laundry basket, don&#8217;t tell them to, &#8220;stop it.&#8221; Instead, tell them that you would appreciate it if they could put their dirty clothes in the laundry basket, or in fact, how happy it makes you feel when they do. Choose your wording wisely so that they can understand how their action impacts your emotions.</p>



<h3>Take A Break for Hobbies</h3>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_ukulele-1024x683.jpg" alt="A man enjoying his hobby of playing the ukulele" class="wp-image-13373" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_ukulele-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_ukulele-300x200.jpg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_ukulele-768x512.jpg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_ukulele-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_ukulele-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_ukulele-100x67.jpg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_ukulele-675x450.jpg 675w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/SELF_ukulele-1600x1067.jpg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/TlxE_EtMWWY" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<p>Stress-relieving methods are important in lasting relationships. We recommend you find a hobby you really enjoy. When we focus on hobbies, we can turn our negative energies into positive ones.<br><br>In recent years, many couples choose to both work rather than hold traditional roles. If you are both working and busy, try to choose a hobby that allows for participation anytime, anywhere, and in small increments. This way the hobby doesn&#8217;t get in the way of the quality time you spend together with your partner.<br><br>Physical activities like dancing can provide both stress relief and better physical health. We go into more details in our past post about dancing and stress relief.</p>



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<h3>Share Your Feelings With Others</h3>



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<p>Simply, sharing feelings with a third person helps with stress. One university study found that 80% of the negative feelings we shared were &#8220;anger.&#8221; This means many of us already feel frustrated about something and tend to relieve it through sharing.<br><br>We feel lighter and gain helpful perspectives when we share our problems with our local community, offices, friends, or family. People with similar experiences can share their solutions and stories. Once we feel heard and well advised, we can head home with a better outlook.<br><br>If you feel hesitant talking about your problems to someone you know, you can also try talking to an AI chatbot. <a rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="SELF MIND (opens in a new tab)" href="https://apps.apple.com/app/id1508095250" target="_blank">SELF MIND</a> is an AI app developed to assist anyone through their life struggles.</p>



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<h2>Maintaining A Healthy Romantic Relationship</h2>



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<p>No matter how close partners are, small indifferences and arguments can still happen. Instead of bottling your feelings inside, it&#8217;s important to have stress outlets so that you can cool off and come back feeling calm and collected. Once couples can communicate effectively through objective conversations, they can work on figuring out and working towards a solution together. Couples that can work through their problems may find their bonds grow stronger as well.</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Reference：</p><cite>Kawase, T. (2000). Why People Talk About Their Emotion?&nbsp;<em>Miyazaki University Humanities Departmental Bulletin Paper</em>,&nbsp;<em>7</em>(1), 135–149. <a href="http://id.nii.ac.jp/1143/00000652/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="http://id.nii.ac.jp/1143/00000652/ (opens in a new tab)">http://id.nii.ac.jp/1143/00000652/</a><br><br>Cascio, C. N., O’Donnell, M. B., Tinney, F. J., Lieberman, M. D., Taylor, S. E., Strecher, V. J., &amp; Falk, E. B. (2015). Self-affirmation activates brain systems associated with self-related processing and reward and is reinforced by future orientation.&nbsp;<em>Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience</em>,&nbsp;<em>11</em>(4), 621–629. <a rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label=" (opens in a new tab)" href="https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsv136" target="_blank">https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsv136</a><br><br>Okada, N., Nakata, A., Nagano, M., Sakai, K., Takai, K., Kodama, H., &amp; Kobayashi, T. (2018). Stressors and the Sense of Coherence Related to the Mental Health of Nurses Assuming the Roles of Wives and/or Mothers &#8211; Investigation into the Effects of Leaving Jobs Because of Marriage, Childbirth, and Childrearing.&nbsp;<em>Journal of UOEH</em>,&nbsp;<em>40</em>(1), 53–63. <a rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label=" (opens in a new tab)" href="https://www.jstage.jst.go.jp/article/juoeh/40/1/40_53/_pdf/-char/ja" target="_blank">https://www.jstage.jst.go.jp/article/juoeh/40/1/40_53/_pdf/-char/ja</a></cite></blockquote>
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		<title>Life Coaching: How It Helps With Self-Care</title>
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<p>We often hear the term &#8220;coaching,&#8221; especially with many professionals offering services that try to lead others to success. However, some may have reservations about the idea of coaching because of its widely applicable range of practice. In the mental wellness realm, trained life coaches can effectively equip people with better self-help skills while guiding clients through a self-development journey.<br><br>In this post, we will introduce the idea of having a life coach and its merits.</p>



<h2>What is A Life Coach?</h2>



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<p>A&nbsp;life coach&nbsp;encourages conversations that promote reflection and answers from within. They also assist through necessary steps to achieve a client&#8217;s personal goal. Life coaches are a type of wellness professionals who help people attain greater fulfillment through communication and mentorship.<br><br>The <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href=  class='blog__text-link-tab' ontouchstart=''></a> estimated that there were approximately&nbsp;71,000 coach&nbsp;practitioners in&nbsp;2019 globally. This was a 33% increase compared to the 2015 estimate, as coach services gain popularity around the world. </p>



<h3>The Difference Between Coaching and Counseling</h3>



<p>Similar to coaching is the term counseling. The two have elements that overlap, although coaching is action-oriented while counseling is coping-oriented.</p>



<figure class="wp-block-table aligncenter"><table class=""><tbody><tr><td>Coaching</td><td class="has-text-align-left" data-align="left">Counseling</td></tr><tr><td>-Helps you recognize what you think<br>-Helps you set and achieve goals<br>-Challenges you frequently<br>-Focuses exclusively on present &amp; future<br>-Focuses on your potential<br>-Trained to help clients move forward<br>-Recognizes the old core beliefs stopping you<br>-Service is paid for personally</td><td class="has-text-align-left" data-align="left">-Helps you realize how you feel<br>-Helps recognize and solve your problems<br>-Provides supports with empathy &amp; understanding<br>-Focuses on past, present, and future <br>-Focuses on being at peace with yourself &amp; life<br>-Trained in mental health conditions<br>-Recognizes mental health conditions holding you back<br>-Service may be covered by work insurance.</td></tr></tbody></table></figure>



<h2>What Kind of People Benefit From A Life Coach?</h2>



<p>A life coach can lead us to answers and perspectives that we wouldn&#8217;t have found on our own. If you&#8217;re the following type of person, you can benefit from a personal life coach:</p>



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<h3>People Who Want Change</h3>



<p>We all have different struggles; family, friends, romantic, career, academics, etc. If you&#8217;re looking for a change but don&#8217;t know where to start, a coach can be helpful. On the other hand, if you&#8217;re happy with life as it is and don&#8217;t need much change, a coach may feel like a waste of time.</p>



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<h3>People Facing Stressful Situations</h3>



<p>Are you feeling stressed from work or school? A coach can set you on a more mentally sound path. One university study reports that coaching helps with stress reduction. A coach can guide you through finding the stress cause and advise the best approach. This helps set a better trajectory towards recovery and a healthier mental state.</p>



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<h2>Benefits of Having A Life Coach</h2>



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<p>A coach not only &#8220;teaches&#8221; you, but helps you recognize what YOU think. They help you take your own initiative towards making better decisions. The following are some of the benefits to having a life coach:</p>



<h3>The Ability to Proactively Solve Problems</h3>



<p>Coaching helps draw out answers that are deep within us. To do this, a coach will repeat dialogues focused on what possible blocks are, what to do, and how to plan towards a goal. A client can transform their mindset from passive to proactive through the repetitive exercises and learn how to face challenging circumstances.</p>



<h3>Better Communication Skills</h3>



<p>Excellent communication skills are vital in any kind of working environment. Repeated coaching sessions train clients to become better communicators. It also helps a client better understand the &#8216;intentions&#8217; behind what others are trying to communicate. Communication skills gained through sessions will help anyone become a more proficient business person.</p>



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<h3>Entering &#8216;the Zone&#8217; for Optimal Performance</h3>



<p>A &#8216;zone&#8217; describes&nbsp;a hyper-concentrated state where we become fully immersed in whatever we are doing. Anyone can &#8216;enter the zone&#8217; through sports, business, academics, or hobbies.<br><br>Coaching sessions can help people gain clarity in how to visualize a path to success. The sessions help with continual positive thinking which makes it easier for a person to enter a flow state to give optimal performance. A positive mindset also combats negativity to keep our mental states calm.</p>



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<h2>How Can I Try A Life Coaching Session?</h2>



<p>How can we take advantage of the benefits and enroll in a coaching session? It starts with finding a life coach that matches your goals. There are tons of organizations and websites that list coaches based on needs. Try to pick someone that you feel compelled to work with or someone who has the credentials and specialty for your challenges.<br><br>Differences like in-person or online sessions, price, and available time frames all will contribute to a decision. </p>



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<h2>Self-Help Through Coaching Sessions</h2>



<p>Although there are many proven benefits to having a life coach, every individual is different in what they can gain from it. Trying a few trial sessions could never hurt in seeing if it&#8217;s something you really want to proceed with.<br><br>Bottling your thoughts and feelings can lead to mental stress. Give life coaching a try to explore and transform parts of yourself you never knew.</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Reference:</p><cite>Matsuda, T., &amp; Tsuda, A. (2014). Application of Coaching on Mental Health Care of Japanese Language Teachers.&nbsp;<em>Kurume University Psychology Research</em>,&nbsp;<em>13</em>, 87–94. <a href="https://ci.nii.ac.jp/naid/120005704920/en" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="https://ci.nii.ac.jp/naid/120005704920/en (opens in a new tab)">https://ci.nii.ac.jp/naid/120005704920/en</a></cite></blockquote>
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				<pubDate>Fri, 13 Nov 2020 01:47:19 +0000</pubDate>
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<p>&#8220;I just tripped on the stairs over there.&#8221;<br>&#8220;I messed up at work today.&#8221;<br>When we experience something negative or embarrassing, many of us feel the need to share it with someone else. In other words, we seek emotional support for the betterment of our mental health. This phenomenon has been studied from various scientific perspectives.</p>



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<h2>Negative Experiences are a Part of Life</h2>



<p>A Japanese university experimented to see how people socially share their experiences when they see images that evoke unpleasant feelings. When participants were left alone in a waiting room with a friend after seeing the unpleasant images, 95.3% of them told their friends about the images. Even when they were told not to disclose, 53% of them ended up talking about their experience a week later. Our desire to share bad experiences with others is so strong, and we struggle to keep it to ourselves.<br><br>In clinical psychology, verbalization of emotions is believed to have a cathartic effect that removes anxiety and tensions. Verbalizing emotions is also linked to better mental health, as it has significant implications for depression recovery. People seem to derive these effects from &#8220;cognitive&#8221; and &#8220;interpersonal&#8221; aspects of this behavior, which we will discuss below.</p>



<h2>Emotional Support Stabilizes Our Feelings</h2>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/justin-veenema-3s3oSch5f1c-unsplash-1024x622.jpg" alt="negative feelings affect our mental health" class="wp-image-11026" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/justin-veenema-3s3oSch5f1c-unsplash-1024x622.jpg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/justin-veenema-3s3oSch5f1c-unsplash-300x182.jpg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/justin-veenema-3s3oSch5f1c-unsplash-768x467.jpg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/justin-veenema-3s3oSch5f1c-unsplash-1536x933.jpg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/justin-veenema-3s3oSch5f1c-unsplash-2048x1244.jpg 2048w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /></figure>



<p>Tough times can make us feel frustrated and anxious. When these experiences occur, our trust, self-image, perception of others, and the world can be shaken. We all desire to sort out what happened, why it happened, and know what kind of social support we can get. When there&#8217;s something out of our control, we feel the need to discuss it with peers so that we can restore our faith again. Receiving the emotional support from our peers makes us feel better about the mistakes we made. These are the &#8220;cognitive&#8221; reasons we vent our feelings to others.</p>



<h2>Staying Connected to Society</h2>



<p>When we&#8217;re upset, we tend to focus on ourselves and our negative experiences. As a result, we tend to forget about the rest of the world. We try to recover from the loneliness we experience during these times by sharing our negative experiences with friends and family. Our desire to communicate stems from wanting society to know how we&#8217;re feeling and to feel accepted through emotional support. This is the &#8220;interpersonal&#8221; reason why we talk about painful things.</p>



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<h2>Do We Want to Share Our Embarrassment?</h2>



<p>It&#8217;s not rare to share the little embarrassing things that we experience. Like when we mess up during a presentation or trip on a flat surface. A Japanese university set to find out if and when students would talk to others about their saddest, angriest, and most embarrassing experiences. Researchers expected results to show that participants seldom shared their embarrassing experiences. However, 71.4 % of participants claimed to share their most embarrassing experiences with others. Also, more than half shared their experience almost immediately after it happened.</p>



<h2>Everybody Shares Their Feelings with Others</h2>



<p>Sharing feelings is part of our universal behavior. A social study of shared emotional behavior across six countries, including Belgium and Suriname, found no differences by country, age, or gender, in the way that humans shared emotions. Talking about embarrassing or upsetting occurrences seems to be a common phenomenon for men and women of all ages and backgrounds worldwide.</p>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/courtney-cook-DWaiEFt9VT4-unsplash-1024x683.jpg" alt="sharing with friends" class="wp-image-11027" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/courtney-cook-DWaiEFt9VT4-unsplash-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/courtney-cook-DWaiEFt9VT4-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/courtney-cook-DWaiEFt9VT4-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/courtney-cook-DWaiEFt9VT4-unsplash-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/courtney-cook-DWaiEFt9VT4-unsplash-2048x1365.jpg 2048w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /></figure>



<p>Nevertheless, it can be somewhat stressful for a listener to hear someone&#8217;s negative experience, as well as to provide undivided emotional support. It&#8217;s wiser to spread your venting among several people rather than dumping everything onto just one person. <br><br>Sharing difficult or embarrassing experiences is natural. We should always support our circle of family and friends to help each other get through these experiences.</p>



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<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Image: Unsplash</p><p>Reference:<br>Kawase, T. (2000). Why We Talk About Our Emotions: Why Do People Talk About Negative Emotions to Others? Bulletin of Miyazaki Municipal University Faculty of Humanities 7(1), 135-149.</p></blockquote>



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				<pubDate>Tue, 27 Oct 2020 12:52:07 +0000</pubDate>
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<p>Some people are exceptionally witty or humorous in the way they communicate. This is very relevant in our lives, because communication is inevitable in work, school, friendships, family, and other communities. Within these communities, a sense of humor creates an environment where people can talk at ease, share good times, and build positive relationships. Moreover, <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">stress relief through humor</span> proves effective in relationships and improving mental health. Stress relief humor even plays a major role in communication. How can we use humor and comedy as a coping mechanism through our difficulties in life?</p>



<h2>4 Ways to Cope Through Stress Relief Humor</h2>



<div class="wp-block-image"><figure class="aligncenter size-large is-resized"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/ja/wp-content/uploads/sites/8/2020/10/hannah-tasker-ZBkH8G4_yyE-unsplash-1-1-1024x683.jpg" alt="Young girl holding eggs over her eyes" class="wp-image-11724" width="1077" height="713" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/ZBkH8G4_yyE">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure></div>



<p>Humor is a word with a diverse concept that can be viewed in a myriad of ways.</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p><em>Humor&nbsp;is an&nbsp;elusive&nbsp;and&nbsp;multifaceted&nbsp;concept that&nbsp;includes wit,&nbsp;laughter,&nbsp;joking,&nbsp;comedy,&nbsp;kidding,&nbsp;teasing,&nbsp;clowning,&nbsp;mimicking,&nbsp;satire, and&nbsp;freak enjoyment&nbsp;of the&nbsp;imperfect.</em></p><cite>Robinson, V.M. (1978), University of Manchester</cite></blockquote>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Humor, the capacity to express or perceive what&#8217;s funny, is both a source of entertainment and a means of coping with difficult or awkward situations and stressful events.</p><cite>Martin, A. (2006), University of Western Ontario</cite></blockquote>



<p>As described by experts in the field above, humor refers to expression and communication we regard as funny or amusing. Furthermore, if we delve deeper, humor can be classified into <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">four main categories: aggressive humor, affiliative humor, self-defeating humor, and self-enhancing humor</span>. Each of these types of humor plays a different role in our coping mechanism.</p>



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<h3>1. Aggressive Humor</h3>



<p><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">Aggressive humor</span> is typically aimed towards others, primarily through sarcasm and teasing. This category of humor may also include tongue-in-cheek, satire, dark humor, and ridicule, all of which have cathartic effects or induce a sense of superiority. While it can come off as negative because it attacks or slanders others, it can definitely work if there&#8217;s a<strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color"> </span></strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">strong psychological bond</span>. To someone close, it could send an indirect message that says, &#8220;I feel close enough to make fun of you&#8221;. This can actually be comforting, especially to a good friend. Of course, depending on how and when you use this type of humor, it may hurt others, so proceed with caution.</p>



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<h3>2.<strong> </strong>Affiliative Humor</h3>



<p><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">Affiliative humor</span> refers to puns, wordplay, and other forms of humor that are mainly playful and trivial. Humor can be playful when the motivation is to create a jovial atmosphere, entertain, or when the subject stays light-hearted. Affiliative humor can effectively lighten the mood when we need a change. Unlike aggressive humor, anyone can use affiliative humor regardless of the degree of relationship.</p>



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<h3>3. Self-Defeating Humor</h3>



<p><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">Self-defeating humor</span> refers to the type of self-deprecating jokes in which we reprimand ourselves through belittling, undervaluing, or excessive modesty. Above all, this kind of humor has the potential to make <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">positive impressions and build smooth relationships</span>. However, excessive self-deprecation risks the development of low self-esteem and diminished happiness in the person making the jokes. At a glance, it may seem beneficial for you to pose as the main target of humor, because it does not hurt anyone, nor would it risk your relationships. However, we must keep in mind that excessive self-mockery can be destructive, and we should be careful how we use it.</p>



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<h3>4. Self-Enhancing Humor</h3>



<p><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">Self-enhancing humor</span> is expressed through self-objectification, usually targeting yourself to create humor in a good-natured way. For example, laughing at your own failure is good for health because it can turn potential stress into a positive factor. At a glance, it may sound similar to self-defeating humor, but it differs in the sense that it <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">doesn&#8217;t attack self-esteem</span>. Let&#8217;s look at an example of humor from the perspective of a person who is not confident about their appearance.<br><br><strong>・Self-defeating humor:</strong> &#8220;I&#8217;ve never been complimented by anyone before, but yesterday I went to the hospital with a sprained ankle, and the doctor said, &#8220;The arch of your foot is exquisite.&#8221; The only thing about me worth complimenting is the arch of my foot!&#8221;<br><strong>・Self-enhancing humor: </strong>&#8220;I&#8217;ve never been complimented by anyone before, but yesterday I went to the hospital with a sprained ankle, and the doctor said, &#8220;The arch of your foot is exquisite.&#8221; That was my first ever compliment about my foot! I&#8217;m glad I sprained my ankle.&#8221;<br><br>As you can see, self-enhancing humor takes a positive outlook overall.<br><br>Self-enhancing humor also requires a certain level of calmness to view things objectively and to gain further insight. This form of stress relief humor also prevents us from losing our minds from hopelessness, difficulties, and failure. Therefore, this kind of humor restores a sense of normalcy and is the most effective form of comedy as a coping mechanism.</p>



<h2>Comedy as a Coping Mechanism in Stress Relief Humor</h2>



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<p>As you can see, there are many different types of humor, but not everyone can use humor effectively. Some people may find it difficult to come up with a witty response on the spot. If so, just <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">engaging in a humorous conversation, environment, or event</span> is sufficient to help us relax and relieve stress. <br><br>Many studies indicate that <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">humor is effective in stress relief</span>. For example, nurses at a hospital found that they can alleviate symptoms of delirium (a mental disorder with delusions and hallucinations) by communicating with the patient through humorous gestures. Similarly, humor and comedy have been drawing attention as a coping mechanisms to manage stress and regulate our mental health. Thus, we can simply say or act upon jokes to lighten a situation, reduce stress, and combat depression. </p>



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<p>For some, humor is used as an <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">ice-breaker</span> to relieve tension on the first encounter with someone; and for others, simply laughing together with close friends and family can be effective in relieving stress. In other words, there are many different ways we can share what we find humorous, depending on our personalities and culture.</p>



<h2>Find Humor in Life Every Day</h2>



<p>Laughter is an essential element in maintaining our mental health every day. Moreover, medically speaking, laughter <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">boosts the immune system</span> and can even help prevent physical ailments, including cancer.</p>



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<p>Laughter and humor brighten up our lives. Therefore, let&#8217;s try to incorporate more humor in our lives &#8211; make casual jokes out of your own mistakes, come up with a funny analogy, or try to engage with someone who has a good sense of humor. In this way, regular exposure to humor and laughter will surely help relieve some stress!</p>



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<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>References:</p><cite><em>Hayama, D., &amp; Sakurai, S. (2005). </em><a href="https://ci.nii.ac.jp/naid/120000839815">A Review of the Moderating Effect of Humor on Stress</a><em>. Tsukuba Psychological Research (30), 87-97</em><br> <br>Ishihara, S. (2015). <a href="https://ci.nii.ac.jp/naid/120006419411/">The Effects of Humor Coping with Interpersonal Stress on Psychological Health</a>. Bulletin of Human Science (36), 67-77.<br><br><em>Kunugimoto, N., &amp; Yamasaki, M. (2011). The Effect of Humor Coping with Interpersonal Stress on the Relationship Between Cynical Hostility, Conscious Defensiveness, and Depression. The Japanese Journal of Psychology 82(1), 9-15. doi: </em><a href="https://doi.org/10.4992/jjpsy.82.9">10.4992/jjpsy.82.9</a> <br><em>Martin, R. A. (2006). The Psychology of Humor: An Integrative Approach (1st ed.). London, United Kingdom: Academic Press.</em> <br><br>Miyashiro, K., &amp; Tomita, M. (2019). <a href="https://www.jcss.gr.jp/meetings/jcss2019/proceedings/pdf/JCSS2019_P2-25.pdf">The Uses of Aggressive Humor  for the Relations with their Friends in College Students</a>. Japanese Cognitive Science Society: 36th Annual Proceedings, 2-25. <br><br><em>Robinson, V.M. (1978). Humor in Nursing. In C. E. Carlson &amp; B. Blackwell (Authors), Behavioral Concepts and Nursing Intervention (2nd ed.) (pp. 191-210). Philadelphia, Pennsylvania: Lippincott.</em><br><br><em>Tsukawaki, R., Fukada, H., &amp; Higuchi, M. (2011). Process Effects of Expression of Humor on Anxiety and Depression. The Japanese Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 51(1), 43-51. doi: </em><a href="https://doi.org/10.2130/jjesp.51.43">10.2130/jjesp.51.43</a></cite></blockquote>
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<p>The world can be roughly divided into two groups: positive and negative people. Actively voicing your thoughts, acting assertively, and paving your own path are all attractive qualities in a person. Such positive attitudes can also improve our mental health. Through all of this, the key to building healthy and relationships are active listening and communication.</p>



<h2>Actively Making Friends</h2>



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<p>For students entering a new semester, the psychological stress caused by their environmental change weighs heavily.<br><br>Will I make new friends?<br>Will I find a new romantic relationship?<br>Can I keep up with my studies?<br>Where will I go with my future career?<br> <br>There are many things to mull over.<br><br>Japanese students entering their freshman year took a sruvery to answer, which parts of their lives they considered most important throughout their university experience. Students who had a positive attitude towards &#8220;socializing and friends&#8221; overall maintained healthier minds. Talking to and spending time with friends are crucial activities in maintaining good mental health. The key to finding communities that we can fit into, depends on how socially proactive we are. As for college students starting a new life, you can determine your future by directing your energy towards what you envision.</p>



<h2>Post-Retirement Isolation and Loneliness </h2>



<p>On the other hand, a lack of community is a problem among adults. Many people don&#8217;t have places to interact with friends or acquaintances in their personal time. This often becomes even more noticeable during unemployment, or after retirement. Things can turn difficult when retirees realize that their workplace was the only community they had. Many of them had been incapable of physically or mentally connecting outside their workplace. This is due to the fact that most of them worked from morning to night, then spend the rest of the day recuperating alone at home. It sounds inevitable for such people to feel lonely when they lose their only place of community.<br><br>Leaving a job not only means having less income, but also a loss of community. Such inconvenience and isolation from society greatly affect the mentality of an unemployed or retired. This can potentially lead to the onset of depression, and sometimes even suicide. For those who work every day, creating a community outside of the workplace takes up a lot of energy. But joining a community and interacting with others is one of the best preventive measures for loneliness and isolation.</p>



<h2>Active Listening is the Key to Communication</h2>



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<p>What kind of person would you like to befriend? Someone with a good personality, easy to talk to, independent, and respectable. An admirable person meets all these traits along with an indispensable skill; the ability to listen to others.<br> <br>&#8220;Active listening&#8221; is a wonderful communicative skill that&#8217;s widely promoted by managers across companies. Academically, this means to;<br> ・Empathically understand without judgement<br> ・Provide unconditional positive interest<br> ・Stay open, frank, and genuine<br><br>In other words, look at things from the perspective of others, empathetically listen to them without judgement, and be sincere with your responses. Active listening doesn&#8217;t require a special technique. It&#8217;s actually a realistic and practical approcah in encouraging others to become more aware and open to their surroundings as they prosper.<br><br>A questionnaire targeted 124 employees that received mental health training from their supervisors. In response to the question, &#8220;What content of the training did you find useful for your workplace in the future?&#8221;, 63% answered &#8220;active listening.&#8221; Respondents believed that it was useful in building relationships, interviewing staff, creating an open work culture, and detecting potential mental health disorders. While &#8216;listening to others&#8217; sounds like the basis of communication, there are surprisingly many people who lack these basic skills. Active listening is an essential skill if you want to build a community where there&#8217;s trust and prosperity.</p>



<h2>Enrich Your Life With Active Communication</h2>



<p>Although positivity can require considerable amounts of effort, it often leads to better mental health. In order to effectively communicate with people with different values, we continuously need to consider &#8216;why&#8217; the other person thinks the way they do. Through conscious effort, we can eventually fully embody the spirit of active listening as a natural skill. Proactive communication skills will help us enrich our lives with more fulfilling relationships.</p>



<p class="has-background has-very-light-gray-background-color">Images: <em>Unsplash</em><br>References:<br>Takahashi, M., Morita, S., Ishizu, K. The Influence of Collectivism and Sense of Community to Mental Health : Through an international comparison between Japan, China and Korea. (2010). <em>Bulletin of the Graduate School of Education,the University of Tokyo</em>, 50, 159-179. Retrieved from <a href="https://ci.nii.ac.jp/naid/120002924396">https://ci.nii.ac.jp/naid/120002924396</a><br><br>Asaoka, S., Igarashi, A. Importance of communication with friends for keeping good mental health in university freshmen (2004).<em>The Japanese Society for the Study of Career Education</em>. 22(2), 11-18. <a href="https://doi.org/10.20757/career.22.2_11">https://doi.org/10.20757/career.22.2_11</a><br><br>Ikegami, K., Tagawa, Y., Mafune, K., Hiro, H., Nagata, S. The Effectiveness of the Mental Health Training including Active Listening for Managers(2008). <em>SANGYO EISEIGAKU ZASSHI</em>. 50(4), 120-127. &nbsp;<a href="https://doi.org/10.1539/sangyoeisei.E7008">https://doi.org/10.1539/sangyoeisei.E7008</a><br><br>Park Yong Koo. Japanese Yonug People&#8217;s domestic directivity based on data : comparative analysis between Korea and China.(2016). <em>Journal of East Asian Studies</em>. (14), 251-260. Retrieved from: <a href="https://ci.nii.ac.jp/naid/120005767107">https://ci.nii.ac.jp/naid/120005767107</a></p>
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