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		<title>The Creeping Dangers of Face Mask Addiction</title>
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<p>The spike in demand for masks due to the COVID-19 pandemic has changed our entire world in many ways. Western countries that had no previous culture of mask-wearing are now asked to wear masks, changing the perspective on what people think about face masks.<br><br>In Asia, face masks have been long and commonly used as protection from air pollution and pollen. However, did you know that masks could become <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">a tool for mental dependency</span>? More people are starting to experience <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">face mask addictions</span> due to the fact that they feel safer with a mask.</p>



<h2>Can Low Self-Esteem Lead to Face Mask Addictions?</h2>



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<p>Face masks are said to be effective for the following:</p>



<ol><li>Protection from virus, pollen, and dust</li><li>Protection and prevention from oral and nasal fluid droplets spreading</li><li>Keeps the skin moist and facial insecurities hidden</li><li>A tool to hide yourself </li></ol>



<p>As COVID-19 has become a global widespread phenomenon, the understanding of 1. and 2. have also become common. As for women, the benefits of 3. allows them to stay make-up-free underneath and some people even appreciate how the mask partially protects them from harmful UV rays.<br><br>People prone to face mask addiction tend to use masks as a way to hide. Research in Asia has shown that the <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">lower the self-esteem, the more likely a person is to wear a mask for no reason</span>. When a person has low confidence, they feel more intimidated to communicate with others and a mask allows these types of people to feel more safe and secure.</p>



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<h2>Face Masks: A Defense and Statement</h2>



<p>There are 2 reasons why a person would feel the need to wear a face mask in unnecessary situations.</p>



<h3>・Mask as a Self-Defense</h3>



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<p>Masks work as a self-defense mechanism as it hides facial insecurities and helps avoid conversations. It&#8217;s a natural <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">psychological defense to protect ourselves from external stimulations</span>.<br><br>Smartphones and the internet have allowed us to communicate without seeing anyone face to face. Some jobs don&#8217;t require any in-person tasks, and this has led some people to believe that in-person communication is unnecessary or unfavorable. Facial masks have most likely contributed to exaggerating this consensus. It&#8217;s an introverted conscious choice to avoid showing our faces.<br><br>When our confidence is low, we become overly sensitive about how people perceive us. A mask can psychologically help us hide away from others noticing us.</p>



<h3>・Mask to Make a Good Impression</h3>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_mask_fashion-1024x683.jpeg" alt="A man posing for a picture with a mask on." class="wp-image-14563" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_mask_fashion-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_mask_fashion-300x200.jpeg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_mask_fashion-768x512.jpeg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_mask_fashion-1536x1025.jpeg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_mask_fashion-2048x1366.jpeg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_mask_fashion-100x67.jpeg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_mask_fashion-675x450.jpeg 675w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_mask_fashion-1600x1067.jpeg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/PsZ1TZNycnA" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<p>There are people who think that masks make them <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">look good and feel more confident</span>. As a recent trend, masks have been incorporated into fashion with various designs and customizations.<br><br>However, studies show that deep down inside, people who wear masks are attracted to the fact that they could hide their expressions and feelings underneath, making them <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">feel safer</span> ​internally. For introverts, the capability to hide anxiety and nervousness makes them feel secure.<br><br>The brain is believed to have <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">visual interpolation</span><strong> </strong>capabilities. This is when spatial and temporal factors are processed in a way to complete partial and illusory contours.<br><br>In real life, this is when we see something hidden but imagine it as if we could see it, using past knowledge and present information available. Some people who are insecure about how they look are hoping that visual interpolation will play into a fact where people automatically perceive their hidden face parts positively.</p>



<h2>How to Overcome Face Mask Addiction</h2>



<div class="wp-block-image"><figure class="aligncenter size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_fenced_in-1024x683.jpeg" alt="A woman looking outside from behind bars." class="wp-image-14561" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_fenced_in-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_fenced_in-300x200.jpeg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_fenced_in-768x512.jpeg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_fenced_in-1536x1024.jpeg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_fenced_in-2048x1365.jpeg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_fenced_in-100x67.jpeg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_fenced_in-675x450.jpeg 675w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_fenced_in-1600x1067.jpeg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/Swfc6shtGP4" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure></div>



<p>As you can see, masks that hide our faces can be used as self-defense and make people believe that they look better with it. Especially for people who have social anxiety, a mask alleviates their anxiety of communicating and socializing with others.<br><br>However, these psychological factors can lead to people unnecessarily depending on it to a point where it develops into a mask addiction.</p>



<h3>Learn How To Feel Safe</h3>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_safe-1-1024x638.jpeg" alt="A young man closing his eyes." class="wp-image-14572" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_safe-1-1024x638.jpeg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_safe-1-300x187.jpeg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_safe-1-768x479.jpeg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_safe-1-1536x957.jpeg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_safe-1-2048x1276.jpeg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_safe-1-100x62.jpeg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_safe-1-700x436.jpeg 700w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_safe-1-1600x997.jpeg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/rhc1_th7ZfA" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<p>Unnecessary masking or people who mentally rely on masks are dependent on it because it covers their physical flaws and makes them feel more secure.<br><br>For mask dependents, the following measures are necessary:</p>



<ul><li>・Learn healthy ways to take feedback from others</li><li>・Understand that not wearing a mask won&#8217;t result in terrible outcomes</li><li>・Understand that masks are not determining factors that bring negative judgments</li></ul>



<p>Studies conclude that<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">gathering with a group of friends that hold similar hobbies</span> can be effective in improving our mental wellbeing.<br><br>One-on-one relationships can be tricky at times, but being part of a<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">&#8220;community&#8221;</span> creates a sense of security where people feel protected in a group. Once a person feels accepted and safe in a group, they can slowly venture out into expressing their own feelings and talent where their &#8220;individuality&#8221; shines.<br><br>A community or group is also helpful for people to<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">learn how to be helped and at the same time help others</span>. It&#8217;s an opportunity to empathize, accept, and encourage each other as everyone aims towards a common goal together. Once all of these things are established within a community, a person will feel free from loneliness or negativity enough to graduate from a mask addiction.</p>



<h2>Have Confidence and Don&#8217;t Care What Others Think</h2>



<figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img src="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_happyfaces-1024x683.jpeg" alt="A mask-less man and a woman enjoying their time and happily smiling." class="wp-image-14540" srcset="https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_happyfaces-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_happyfaces-300x200.jpeg 300w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_happyfaces-768x512.jpeg 768w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_happyfaces-1536x1024.jpeg 1536w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_happyfaces-2048x1365.jpeg 2048w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_happyfaces-100x67.jpeg 100w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_happyfaces-675x450.jpeg 675w, https://selfmind.ai/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SELF_happyfaces-1600x1067.jpeg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption>Image: <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/r70Nwo395fY" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="Unsplash (opens in a new tab)">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>



<p>With the COVID-19 pandemic, many of us have become dependant on masks, wearing them for long hours at a time. However, the longer we keep masks on, the more we risk psychological aspects start playing into effect. Excessive masking can increase the number of patients who fall into face mask addiction.<br><br>True safety and happiness won&#8217;t come from hiding behind a mask. A true sense of security and happiness comes from<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">understanding ourselves, accepting, and opening the door to our hearts</span>.<br><br>An objective self-reflection is key in understanding yourself, but objectivity is difficult when it comes to ourselves. Recently, there has been an <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">AI (artificial intelligence) counseling app</span> developed specifically to help a person&#8217;s mental well-being by providing objective perspectives and advice.<br><br>If the issues you face are hard to share with people in real life, an AI can hear you without any restrictions on time schedule, or location. It&#8217;s an affordable alternative counseling method with a free trial period. Give it a try!<br>→<a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href= https://apps.apple.com/app/id1508095250 class='blog__text-link_en' ontouchstart=''>SELF MIND</a>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Reference：<br><br>Shimura, K., &amp; Tanaka, H. (2017). Pilot study on classifying behavior for wearing surgical masks &#8211; Behaviors for dealing with social anxiety and Safety Behavior -.&nbsp;<em>Bulletin of Clinical Psychology, Tokyo Seitoku University</em>,&nbsp;<em>17</em>, 27–34. <a rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="https://www.tsu.ac.jp/Portals/0/site-img/gra/2018/kiyou17/shimura,tanaka.pdf (opens in a new tab)" href="https://www.tsu.ac.jp/Portals/0/site-img/gra/2018/kiyou17/shimura,tanaka.pdf" target="_blank">https://www.tsu.ac.jp/Portals/0/site-img/gra/2018/kiyou17/shimura,tanaka.pdf</a><br> <br>Watanabe, N. (2018). Face Mask Addiction.&nbsp;<em>Stress Science Research</em>,&nbsp;<em>33</em>, 15–20. <a rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="https://doi.org/10.5058/stresskagakukenkyu.2018006 (opens in a new tab)" href="https://doi.org/10.5058/stresskagakukenkyu.2018006" target="_blank">https://doi.org/10.5058/stresskagakukenkyu.2018006</a></p></blockquote>
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		<title>How to Overcome Your Pride and Open Up to Others</title>
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				<pubDate>Thu, 18 Jun 2020 07:19:16 +0000</pubDate>
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<p>Are you the type that can open up easily to others?<br><br>When we&#8217;re struggling, advice from others can be extremely helpful. Sometimes we feel better just being heard by someone else. However, there are people that have difficulties opening up to others. Some feel that it&#8217;s &#8220;embarrassing&#8221; or feel too vulnerable to &#8220;expose weakness&#8221; to others.<br><br>In fact, study shows that <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">people with a high sense of pride and self-esteem struggle to open up to others</span>.</p>



<h2>The Merits of Opening Up</h2>



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<p>It isn&#8217;t easy to open up. You need the courage to expose your vulnerabilities and you also need someone you can trust.<br><br>However, there are merits to opening up. Our<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">depressive symptoms and mental health improve</span> when we share our struggles or adversities in life. When someone listens and accepts our problems it brings up our<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">self-esteem</span><strong> </strong>and frees our sense of loneliness. Advice and sympathy can also ease anxiety so that we can take the next step in action.<br><br>When we experience unpleasant events there&#8217;s a strong urge to want to<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">share the experience with others</span>. This urge occurs because venting gives us emotional satisfaction.</p>



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<h2>The 3 Reasons Why You Can&#8217;t Open Up</h2>



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<p>Even when there are merits to opening up, the idea of showing vulnerabilities can be scary. That&#8217;s because we anticipate a negative outcome by sharing our struggles.<br><br>What makes us anticipate this negative outcome?</p>



<h3>Concern 1: There&#8217;s a Hierarchy In Place</h3>



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<p>There&#8217;s a chance that the<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">social dynamics and hierarchy would change</span><strong> </strong>when you expose your true thoughts. Some people fear being put in an inferior position once their<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">weaknesses</span><strong> </strong>are known.<br><br>The idea of a possible downgrade in social positions can send a person into a loop of negative thinking. This won&#8217;t be easy to change unless perspectives shift.</p>



<h3>Concern 2: You Care What Others Think</h3>



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<p>There are people who anticipate more<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">anxiety</span><strong> </strong>and<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">embarrassment </span>from opening up. They <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">care too much about their public image</span>. The possibility of being looked down upon or making someone uncomfortable outweighs the idea of opening up.<br><br>Our own common sense does not equate to other people&#8217;s common sense. If their internal values are different from others, it may hold a person back from opening up.</p>



<h3>Concern 3: You Don&#8217;t Want to Remember Anything Negative</h3>



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<p>When we open up, we have to<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">recall our negative memories</span><strong> </strong>to talk about them. Some people want to avoid this.<br><br>If there&#8217;s a painful past or an unpleasant memory, it can be mentally draining to dip into the past. In other words,<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">it can feel like wounds are being ripped open</span>. In this case, courage and commitment are required for a person to open up.</p>



<h2>People With a High Sense of Pride Care About Their &#8220;Image&#8221;</h2>



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<p>We all have<strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color"> </span></strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">pride in who we are</span>. Part of it comes from positive self-esteem and what we feel good about ourselves. Generally speaking, our sense of pride is formed through two aspects. The <span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">confidence in our capabilities and the belief in self-value</span>.<br><br>How prideful you affects whether or not you can be completely vulnerable to open up.<br><br>People who have a lower sense of pride tend to feel easily hurt by adversities. This is because they&#8217;ve never felt enough self-value or a sense of belonging. On the other hand, people with a huge sense of pride are more tolerant of adversities. This is because they can focus on the other fun things in life or the positive traits regardless of the situation. Their thinking focuses on the future rather than the past and this creates small room for negativity.<br><br>In other words, they don&#8217;t need to go and share their struggles that risk their public image. Most people don&#8217;t want to give off any negative impressions and to<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">manage a front</span>, they think it&#8217;s best to avoid showing any vulnerabilities.</p>



<h2>It&#8217;s Important to Open Up</h2>



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<p>Not everyone can open up to show who they really are.<br><br>However, opening up about how you really feel can fix problems in a relationship. There&#8217;s also a risk that a situation worsens because things are kept a secret.<br><br>When we open up, it<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">creates an opportunity to form closer relationships</span>. The act of exposing weakness and shame takes away the divide between people. Human beings are capable of empathy. We can form strong bonds when we truly open up to another person.</p>



<p>If you still struggle to open up, we recommend that you try<strong> </strong><span style="color:#ff6900" class="color">AI (Artificial Intelligence) counseling</span>. There is an AI counseling app that can support your mental journey and make you feel calm. It also has functions that allow for record-keeping so that you can view your problems from a more objective perspective. An AI robot can listen to your problems without judgment anytime, anywhere.<br><br>It&#8217;s also much more affordable than traditional therapy. We recommend that you give it a try through a free trial!<br>→<a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href= https://apps.apple.com/app/id1508095250 class='blog__text-link_en' ontouchstart=''>SELF MIND</a>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Reference：<br><br>Katayama, M. (1996). The relationship between self-esteem and self-disclosure of negative information.&nbsp;<em>The Japanese Journal of Psychology</em>,&nbsp;<em>67</em>(5), 351–358. <a href="https://doi.org/10.4992/jjpsy.67.351" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label="https://doi.org/10.4992/jjpsy.67.351 (opens in a new tab)">https://doi.org/10.4992/jjpsy.67.351</a></p></blockquote>



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