What Does It Mean to Be Mentally Strong or Weak?

・No One Is Mentally Strong to Begin With

First of all, what does it mean to be mentally “strong” or “weak”?

Mental strength isn’t a given strength people have. It’s more about how good you are at navigating through emotions when a negative incident occurs.

For example, lets’ say a man was given the opportunity to do a presentation at his company. Over a few days, he gathers information, creates the necessary files for it, and presents everything at the end. However, the boss responds with very critical feedback. How does this man react to that critical feedback?

Scenario 1: Let me incorporate what he said and try again

Scenario 2: I’m not going to care about it too much

Scenario 3: I tried so hard, yet all I got was a critical opinion on it

Scenario 1 is a response from someone who is positive that tries to grow towards their next opportunity. Scenario 1 is the most ideal way to navigate your emotions. Instead of facing away from the problem, they improve their skills so that they can prepare and build their mental tolerance towards the issue.

At a quick glance, the scenario 2 response seems like a response from someone who is mentally strong. However, this does not consider fixing the situation to prepare for future possibilities. This response is effective in brushing off malicious and offensive acts carried out towards a person. It is important to assess how important the situation is before you choose this option

The most problematic is scenario 3. A negative response to feedback only grows negative emotions within that leads to a loss of self-esteem. This is spotted in people that are always too serious or are perfectionists. When they can’t achieve their ideal goals, they tend to self-sabotage.

・It’s Important to Shift Your Thoughts

When there’s an inconvenient event that happens, we feel unpleasant. After the unpleasant feelings, it turns into negative emotions of frustration or anxiety. This shift from unpleasant to negative emotion is part of how the brain reacts and we cannot change this mechanism.

Most people who are mentally vulnerable tend to be affected by these negative emotions that arise. Eventually, they feel trapped in a negative cell from the illusion that they’ve created.

People who are considered mentally strong are capable of shifting their thinking more positively before they get affected by these negative emotions.

This thought shift is a vital skill. If we use the example from above in the case of the presentation getting critical feedback from the boss, you can shift your thinking into the positive by focusing on your potential growth from this experience.

5 Mental Strength Training Methods to Try Now

Just like muscle strength or endurance training, we can build out our mental strength so that we become more tolerant of adversities. Below, we introduce the 5 training methods we recommend for you to try.

Method 1: Self-Reflect Through Self-Talk

By changing the pronouns while you talk to yourself, you can create a second-person dialogue. This allows you to see your situation from a distance so that you can see things more clearly and objectively.

You can specifically shift the dialogue by using first-person, second-person, and third-person pronouns. Below are examples if we continue the scenario of presenting and receiving critical feedback from the boss.

・First-Person
“I’m super nervous. I’ve perpared well, but I wonder if everyone will understand.”

・Second-Person
“Hey, you don’t have to feel so nervous. You’ve prepared well, so all you have to do is present with confidence.”

・Third-Person
“He doesn’t have to feel that nervous. He prepared well. I’m sure people will understand if he presents with confidence.”

As you can see, talking to yourself as if you were another person creates the necessary distance to gain clarity.

Method 2: Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness is a way of thinking that enhances the experience of the present “now.” Mindfulness meditation is applied in cognitive behavioral therapy within the mental health field.

It focuses on subtle sensory signs of the body, such as how it feels when a single bean is placed on the palm of your hand. The focus on these subtle actions helps steer our thoughts away from negativity. Once we displace ourselves from a position of stress, we can recognize new aspects that lead to solving the problem itself.

1. Sit with a straight back
2. Close your eyes and feel your breath
3. If your thoughts start to wander, bring back the attention to the breath

These 3 points are all you need to practice mindfulness meditation. Start from 3 to 5 minutes of practice and then expand to 10 minutes or 15 minutes as you go.

Method 3: Think Like a Fly on the Wall

The Fly On The Wall method is a great way to gain objectivity. As the word spells it out, you act as if you’re a fly on the wall as if you could understand the situation with a bird’s-eye view.

This method is test proven through an experiment at Ohio University and known to be effective as a stress care method. Similar to mindfulness meditation, it requires no tool.

The most important technique in this is to create an external view of what’s happening to yourself.

You’ll be affected less by negative emotions once you learn how to separate your emotions and actual reality. You don’t have to be a fly. It could be another bug, a cloud, a light pole. By continuing this practice, you train your mind to constantly take an objective perspective and this helps cool down anger when it arises.

Method 4: Organize Your Thoughts on a Piece of Paper

If a negative incident is straining your thoughts, try writing it all out on a piece of paper.

The content should be based on what happened and how you felt.

• I got into a fight with a friend – Unhappy
• I had to go to work on a day off – Sad
• I got stuck in traffic – Frustrating

When we write out how we feel on a piece of paper, the visualization of our feelings helps organize our thoughts. The understanding of why we feel unhappy or frustrated will give us the opportunity to recognize our biases and negative beliefs.

Negativity is contagious so it’s easy to roll down the negative spiral once you’re in it. Write out all your feelings and organize your thoughts. See if you can capture things in a more positive light.

Method 5: Learn How to Build Automatic Positivity

Mental weakness comes from us reacting negatively to incidents. This is called “automatic thinking,” and when our automatic thoughts are steered negatively it can trigger a state of depression.

However, this tendency can be fixed through training by continually focusing on the 3 points below:

1. Reflect on your past success
2. Think positive thoughts if you ever feel yourself getting negative
3. Think of the influences that positive memories bring

First, recall a positive success memory. It can be anything from receiving a compliment or a good score on a test. Think of what elements produced the results and try to unravel the secrets to your success and failures. Continually recalling your success will automatically kick your thoughts into positive gear.

It’s also helpful to recall how you’ve overcome failure. If you ever feel negative, remember the moment you grew from your failures. Perhaps it’s now a great story to tell or you recognize how important someone was to you. Try to understand the past as a positive event that made you who you are today.

If your friends encouraged you through failures, you can take it that you have great friends. If you’re able to make it into a great story from the past, perhaps you have the whit to do so. Sprinkle these positive aspects into your mind and this will help create an automated process towards positive thinking.

Strengthen The Mind and Body Through Mental Training

We talked about strengthening our mental tolerance through training, but weakness has its benefits too.

If you tend to be sensitive to small incidents, another way to see it is that you are expressive and have a strong sensibility. If you feel anxiety and pressure, it could mean that you feel more responsible than others.

If you feel that you’re mentally weak and need the training to build mental tolerance, just make sure that you don’t lose the great aspects that you already have. We hope you keep your unique greatness as an individual while building out parts that need support for a more enjoyable life!

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Reference：

【World Health Organization】

【BlueCross BlueShield THE HEALTH OF AMERICA】

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Part 1: What Can Yoga Do For Me?

Psychological Benefits of Yoga

First, let’s talk about the mental health benefits of Yoga. Yoga is primarily known for its effectiveness in reducing stress and promoting relaxation. Multiple studies have looked into the relation of yoga and stress, and it is believed that yoga helps reduce cortisol, which is the main stress hormone in humans. In addition, regularly practicing yoga has also shown to assist with reducing symptoms of anxiety and PTSD. While the exact reason for this is unknown, the combination of meditation and healthy exercise is definitely a powerful way to increase relaxation and improve one’s quality of life.

Furthermore, some studies have shown that regularly practicing yoga can lead to improved sleep quality. One study comparing two groups – one which practices yoga regularly, and a control group – showed that the group practicing yoga were able to fall asleep more easily, and felt more refreshed in the mornings. Another study showed that yoga reduced sleep disturbances, improved quality of sleep, and reduced the need for sleep medication.

Physical Benefits of Yoga

In terms of physical beneifts, the various poses that are utilized in yoga – whether they are simple or more advanced and complicated – mostly incorporate a combination of core strength, flexibility, and balance. Furthermore, maintaining these poses will also contribute to improvements in physical endurance. In this sense, yoga is the one-stop solution for improving your base-level altheticism and physical strengh. In this way, yoga exercises can benefit you in your fitness journey, even as beginners.

Yoga has also been suggested to improve symptoms of chronic pain. Multiple studies have looked into the effects of yoga on patients with chronic physical pain, and have shown that long-term practice of yoga can reduce pain and increase physical functionality. In another cases, yoga has proven useful for patients who suffer from migrains, by reducing headache intensity, frequency, and pain level. Researchers have suggested that this may be due to the fact that yoga stimulates the vagus nerve, which is known to influence migrains.

Yoga V.S. Other Forms of Exercise

Yoga combines body strength, flexibility, core balance, breathing exercises, and meditation, which makes it quite different from other popular forms of exercise or sports. While it might not seem like the most physically enduring of exercises, you would be surprised at how much you lose your breath by the end of an hour-long session. One study compared two groups – one which were instructed to practice yoga, and another which were instructed to practice calisthenics – over the course of a year. After one year, yoga proved to have higher benefits in improving overall flexibility of the body.

While exercise in general is healthy for the mind and body, one key unique factor about yoga is the incorporation of meditation. Various studies have shown that regularly practicing meditation can help to improve quality of life in many areas. One such study examined the effects of mindfulness meditation on depression, anxiety, and stress. The results showed that a 10-week course on mindfulness meditation had positive effects on all three affective states, reducing their severity and intensity in the participants. Distress levels can be reduced by an increased awareness of one’s cognitive and emotional states, and mindfulness meditation helps individuals to accept thoughts, emotions and sensations as they occur, minimizing their influence on sustaining affective disorders.

Yoga combines the positive effects of meditation with the health benefits of physical exercise, which makes it a unique endeavour for anybody who is keen to take part. Your skill level does not matter, beginners can reap the health benefits of yoga just as much as more advanced practitioners. The important thing is keeping with it!

Part 2 will outline a few beginner poses in Yoga and help you get started on your yoga journey!

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